Relationship - need M.A. to understand

I have a flurry of ideas and connections coming fast; hardly enough time to write them down! God, it's always so great to have that feeling. Where, like in little flashes, things seem right and it becomes very important that they stay "right" - but it's all fun, all the while!

My daughter's got me hooked on Tassimo coffee and it's, shall we say, doubled my commitment to caffeine. I drink hot fluids - i should switch to tea once in awhile. (nb. just made tea with honey and milk). I worry about it not being easily recyclable as all it will become is LAND FILL, LAND FILL. Yuk, LAND FILL!!!

So, the great thoughts i mentioned earlier narrowed in on the future, where i tend to live. Or the past, mostly on rainy days. Living "here and now" is impossible, so i guess "future" wins out. My grandson has been asking me alot about God/de lately and i'm working hard to give him all the info and relevant insight i have but i need to get a book to explain some concepts i'm struggling with. I love talking with my grandson - he's alot of fun to listen to and has very compelling ways of expressing himself....and he's funny, mostly light-hearted.

I'm a dope. Everyone thinks so, i bet. I think things should go a certain way and if they don't i get all witched out and upset (less now with meds). I draw ridiculously tight boundaries around myself and resist trusting anyone.. I have NO interest in meeting new people. NONE. Now, how can that be sane? The complexities, even in my own family, are enough to take every piece of physic energy i have.

I'm also aware of of psychic energy in general, i always have been, i hate it - it's disturbing to be sensitive to how others 'feel'. It's like i have an extra antenna. The minutia is a killer. I do know that the "affect" of another is very important to me. I've met some nasty ones along the way!! Buyer beware!

Anyways, age mellows and it becomes easier when older to relax and trust. But still, there are some basic ground rules, i suppose.

#1 - COMMUNICATIONS
maintaining a healthy, successful marriage or relationship:

• consistent honing, pruning and learning ways to better come together as a couple.
  
• making a communications contract and sticking to it.
• spending more time with each other; keeping the fires burning.
• be honest and forthcoming with your emotions.
• don't lie, cheat or be disloyal
• have shared priorities as a family and work towards them
• be a leader in "following through"
• the silent treatment has GOT to be the worst (my mother did it to my father). Thus, the saying - "it goes from worse to worser"- they both lost out on that strategy.
  
• figure out ways to explore and pursue separate personal interests and goals
  

#2 - ATTEND TO THE SPIRITUAL
iving life from a set of values and contemplate them regularly.

Pray, first, in adoration and awe of God/de; gratitude for life and all that that encompasses (trees and seagulls, perriwinkles and railways), confession for a job not so well done this month, me thinks but thankful for a drop of penance and to end my prayers off for the evening - petitions for others, the world and myself in it.

• Teach spirituality by living your life with joy, peace, long-suffering, kindness, .gentleness and some others i can't remember (St. Paul). I suck at about half of them!!!
• Be able to communicate your belief.
• Remember, (if you are a Christian, you may note...) that when Jesus said "when two or three are gathered, there shall I be" he didn't say "two or three thousand or one hundred" He said two or three.
  
• Pray to be a good person, nay, a better person.
  

#3 HAVING A FINANCIAL LIFE
developing a low-stress approach to personal finances.

• have a budget; follow it.
• talk regularly and without emotion about money every week for 1/2 hr - 1 hour.
  
• set goals together and discuss how to meet them.

Like i said, it's alot of work being in a relationship. Geesh.
These are just ideas